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This is a podcast aimed at better understanding other people and better understanding ourselves. 

I’m Zachary Elwood. On this podcast, I talk to people from a wide range of professions and backgrounds about behavior and psychology.

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I’m most known for my work on poker tells (aka, poker behavior). My first poker tells book, Reading Poker Tells, has been translated into eight languages. I’m also known for my work on political polarization (for example, my book Defusing American Anger). My independent research on deceptive online activity has been featured in NY Times, Washington Post, Buzzfeed, and more.

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Can we work to reduce toxic political polarization even in our anger and fear?

For many people, Trump represents a uniquely dangerous figure in American history. But what if the contemptuous, maximally pessimistic ways many people talk about Trump and Republicans help put more “wind in the sails” of polarized, polarizing leaders like Trump? Similarly, do excessive contempt and overly pessimistic framings from Republicans help create more support for…

The psychology of Orgasmic Meditation and Nicole Daedone’s OneTaste

I talk with journalist Ellen Huet, whose new book Empire of Orgasm digs into the strange origins and evolution of Nicole Daedone and OneTaste, and goes into more detail than the Netflix documentary, which was titled Orgasm Inc. We talk about where OneTaste’s orgasmic meditation practices actually came from, how Daedone built a movement around…

Can clusters of behavior help determine deception?

Many people think there are telltale signs of lying — shifty eyes, nervous fidgeting, maybe a quick smile — that can give someone away to trained observers. But according to decades of research, that’s a myth. Still, some scientists push back on that consensus. A recent paper by well-known researcher David Matsumoto (of the company…

Neurolinguistic programming (NLP): what it is and why it’s popular with charlatans and false gurus

You’ve probably heard of neuro-linguistic programming (NLP). It’s a popular thing. It’s the foundation for the work of popular life/business coach Tony Robbins, and there are many other popular trainers and “gurus” who have used NLP ideas as the basis for their work. The con artist Chase Hughes (whose many lies and unethical behaviors I’ve…

“They’re violent and crazy!” How political polarization distorts our view of the “other side”

I recently wrote a piece about political polarization for the site, The Liberal Patriot, titled “It’s all the other side’s fault.” That piece included some ideas I think are very important for understanding toxic conflict, but that are rarely discussed. For example, I think group differences are an important aspect of conflict; groups in conflict…

Why some philosophers think we’re all the same person: a talk on open individualism

What if your consciousness, your self-awareness, isn’t unique at all—but the very same “I” that exists in everyone, everywhere? What if you and I—and everyone—are essentially the same person? In this episode, I talk with Joe Kern, author of “The Odds of Existing: On Open Individualism and the Illusion of Death” about Open Individualism: the radical…

The psychology of “Bad Vegan”: Sarma Melngailis on narcissistic manipulation methods, and the pain she lives with

The documentary “Bad Vegan” was about Sarma Melngailis’s nightmarish journey from successful New York City restaurant owner to Rikers inmate jailed for stealing millions. How did this happen? Sarma was the victim of a narcissistic con man named Anthony Strangis, who manipulated her into believing (or semi-believing) a number of wild, delusional ideas (like that…

My life-changing experience with meditation

In the summer of 2024, I went on a five-day solo retreat in the mountains of New Mexico. It was the first time I’d ever really committed to meditation, and to my surprise it turned out to be a deeply meaningful and lasting experience. In this episode, I talk about what led me to try…

Are we all a bit narcissistic? Understanding the spectrum of narcissism

A 2023 talk with Craig Malkin, author of the book Rethinking Narcissism: The Secret to Recognizing and Coping with Narcissists, in which he explains that narcissism is a spectrum. It’s healthy and normal to have some positive and grandiose illusions about your place in the world, as long as those illusions don’t become pathologically unhealthy…